Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
Your boyfriend has never said anything like that before. He’s always respected your physical boundaries. In fact, you were confident he shared your convictions about saving sex for marriage—which is exactly why you don’t know how to respond to his statement. But you're tempted to say yes.
Even though I haven’t dated anyone, I’ve still had several broken hearts. It feels like unrequited love (i.e., falling for someone who doesn’t share my feelings) has been the theme of my single years. I’ve learned that having a formal relationship isn’t a prerequisite for getting a broken heart. Unfortunately, it’s incredibly easy to get one. If you’ve found that to be true too, this post is for you.
Today's post—written by Shelby Abbott—is about the internal struggle of singles to find peace in the present. I did an interview with Shelby last year (which you can watch here if you missed it!) and got to learn about his journey of being single and stepping into ministry. Though this post focuses on singleness, it genuinely applies to all seasons of life. Enjoy, friends!
The topic of sex used to make me feel pretty uncomfy, but that's no longer the case. Now I'm excited about having sex. It's something I look forward to! And if you feel the same way, I want you to know you're not weird; you're normal.
Perhaps you’re not in a romantic relationship right now, so the “future husband” concept feels abstract to you. Maybe it feels like you’ll never find true love or get married. I feel that way sometimes, too. But a passage from Proverbs 31 actually changed my perspective on my future husband and how I can honor him (and the Lord!), even though I haven’t met him yet. Here are three practical ways that you can become a godly wife—even before you meet your future husband.
I don't have a problem with single girls hanging out with fellow single girls on Valentine's Day. In fact, that can be a great way to spend the holiday! I just have a problem with the message of Galentine's Day, which is this: You don't need a guy; you just need your gal pals. (Hence the name Galentine's Day—emphasis on gal).
In real life, guys and girls break up and subsequently wrestle with serious doubts and regrets. I’d argue it’s particularly common for girls who break up with their boyfriends to doubt or regret their decisions. It’s simply easier to stay in relationships—even unhealthy ones—than to be alone. But does that mean they should take back their boyfriends?
It was clear to me that Madison lacked respect for her fiancé—and that marrying him wasn’t going to solve that problem. If I could’ve asked her one question after hearing her critical comment, I would’ve asked this: “Do you actually respect your fiancé, or are you just marrying him to check the ‘marriage box' off your ‘life to-do list’?” Honestly, I don’t think enough girls ask themselves that question.
This post isn’t about what attracts guys in general—because guys who follow Jesus (hopefully) prioritize very different things than guys who don’t follow Jesus. However, this post is about how to attract guys who follow Jesus and two ways you can do that based on 1 Peter 3:3-4.
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