As my friends sort through their romantic relationships—whether married, engaged, dating, or almost-dating—I sort through my feelings of emptiness, loneliness, and despair. I cling to my unwantedness like a beloved toy. It feels wrong to cling so tightly to such an ugly feeling, but I can’t seem to let go. All I want to know is this: Am I wanted?
I want you to know that you’re normal. You’re not the only one who’s never had a “real” relationship. There are other girls out there just like you—and I’m one of them.
God knows I need time to grow in Him before I can get close to any guy. And that’s how I’ve tasted His goodness. Though I've been treating Him like a villain for not allowing anyone to ask me out, I've actually been living in His mercy.
Do we expect a guy to be—as Habakkuk 2:19 says—our "teacher"? To somehow show us that we're valuable? That we’re worth it? We shouldn’t let him have that privilege because he doesn’t deserve it.
The reason my heart hurt was because it seemed like the commenters could only express their feelings in the comments section under my article. Was that the only “safe” place for them to share how they truly felt about guys and relationships?
Somehow, I still have a hard-core crush on Sean...I imagine us having this amazing relationship that would make you crazy jealous. But it’s all fake. It’s all in my head.
Honestly, there are lots of reasons why I’m scared about dating. I’m unsure what kinds of things we’ll talk about, how we’ll share hopes and dreams about the future, etc. Maybe, if you’re a completely inexperienced dater like me, you can relate to these three fears...
My freshman year was not long ago, and I can relate to your worry. However, I believe it’s possible to worry less about starting college if you don’t put so much pressure on yourself to succeed.
When will someone ask me? Will a guy ever be brave enough? I couldn’t help but wonder when a guy would even bother to notice me. Would I live the rest of my life without male attention? To be honest, I have never had a boyfriend or even been on a date.
I didn’t just want a charming guy to sweep me off my feet. I wanted a man who could bring me closer to Christ. And that kind of spiritual maturity reveals a heart that is satisfied in God.
If I could tell that young man (or any of the young men I’ve been attracted to over the years) what I desire in a future husband, I would say this:
I realize that Valentine’s Day has come and gone. The leftover candy is now on clearance, and the cheesy valentines are lying in the garbage. Sadly, for many girls, Valentine’s Day was actually depressing because a boyfriend hadn’t shown up yet. I couldn’t feel less sympathy. There are millions of single teenagers across the world.... Continue Reading →