Okay, so there are actually many things I struggle to remember while waiting for marriage, but this is one of the biggest. I’ve written other other posts about marriage and how it points to the marriage celebration of Christ and the Church (as described in Revelation). An earthly marriage between a fallen man and woman is a foretaste of what’s to come—but it’s only a foretaste.
Fairytale Façade
Ever since Cinderella fell in love with Prince Charming and Aurora fell in love with Prince Phillip and Ariel fell in love with Prince Eric, I wanted the same thing to happen to me. Honestly, I probably wanted that before I was even introduced to fairytales. I believe the desire to get married is innate—something God placed in our hearts when He created us. (Just read Genesis 2 to see what I mean.)
I wanted to experience what Cinderella and Aurora and Ariel experienced—preferably with a prince, but a commoner was acceptable. So I waited. And I’m still waiting because I still want to experience what Cinderella and Aurora and Ariel experienced.
However, as I’ve gotten older, God has opened my eyes to the shortcomings of earthly marriages between fallen men and women. I’ve seen marriages end in tragic ways. I’ve heard about husbands and wives fighting against one another rather than fighting for one another. I’ve learned that love is often more transactional than true. At the very least, marriage can be extremely methodical and mundane.
But friends, before you tune me out because I sound like a downer, hang in there. The good news is coming. One of my personal pet peeves is when people—especially married people—complain about marriage and act like it’s the hardest thing ever because singleness is tough too. Honestly, few seasons of life (if any) are easy. I simply want this post to remind you to view marriage realistically—because that’s what I have trouble remembering to do.
Understanding Where You’re Going
The prudent understand where they are going, but fools deceive themselves. (Proverbs 14:8 NLT)
As you probably know based on previous posts I’ve written, I deeply enjoy watching sweet romances unfold onscreen. (Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and The Little Mermaid were just the beginning.) But as I get lost in these stories of true love, I tend to forget that they’re completely fictional.
You might not have the same struggle I have, but if you do, I encourage you to take Solomon’s words to heart: Don’t deceive yourself about where you’re going. Marriage is a beautiful, biblical thing, but don’t expect it to be perfect. Don’t fall for the fairytale narrative that it will be. Instead, understand the seriousness of what you desire.
Rose-colored glasses don’t look good on anyone—especially not on single girls who want to get married. To be honest, if you’re wearing these glasses, you aren’t ready for marriage yet. But if you’re seeking to understand what marriage truly entails, I’m confident you won’t regret it.
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