Where God's Word Meets My Mess
Even though I haven’t seen that many Hallmark movies, I’ve seen enough to know what the end is going to be: happily ever after. Honestly, Hallmark, you’re deceiving so many women with your cookie-cutter romances. Our expectations for dating and marriage are completely skewed, thanks to you and your sidekick, Disney.
Everyone tells you that college is the best time of your life and that post-college will be the worst time of your life. Perhaps the best time of your life will officially be over in approximately three months. So you panic.
Friends, I know singleness isn't easy. It's nobody's fault that you're un-dated, un-engaged, and un-married. But patience isn't becoming easier. Instead, feelings of loneliness, disappointment, and curiosity, and fear are becoming easier. What's a girl to do?
You can skip out on the events, miss the adventures, and avoid the opportunities because maybe just maybe that guy will ask you to go with him. Or you can go to the events, tag along on the adventures, and take advantage of the opportunities because you—as a single individual—still matter and still have a significant purpose to fulfill.
It doesn’t make sense, does it? I know that you’re trying to make sense of why you’re still alone. Why no one has wanted you. Why no one has touched you. Why no one has dared utter your name—except to criticize you or order a cheeseburger and fries combo meal.
You’re not trying to be haughty or self-centered. You just want to know: God, why not me? And God, why her?
While I do believe that women are called to modesty (both in heart and in clothing choices), I also believe there should be a shift away from the idea that lust is a guys-only sin. Because if we treat lust like a guys-only sin, then girls will either not feel convicted of their lust or they will feel alone in their struggle. Neither of those things is okay.
I want you to know that you’re normal. You’re not the only one who’s never had a “real” relationship. There are other girls out there just like you—and I’m one of them.
Now, of course, this is the perfect opportunity for me to make up a great story about how I’m cherishing my single life and how I don’t need a man. I just need my career…or gal pals…or Jesus. Right? But the truth isn’t nearly as complicated as those made-up reasons.
If God is my everything, I don’t need anything. I don’t need a date for Friday night. I don’t need a boyfriend who buys me flowers. I don’t need a husband who holds me in his arms. And I don’t need Four. Because I have Him.
Honestly, there are lots of reasons why I’m scared about dating. I’m unsure what kinds of things we’ll talk about, how we’ll share hopes and dreams about the future, etc. Maybe, if you’re a completely inexperienced dater like me, you can relate to these three fears...
Singleness is a reality for many of us. But even though singleness is becoming more normal for young adults, that doesn’t make it much easier. I bet you can relate to at least one of the three fears singles have...
It’s wonderful to be ready for doing God’s work. Sometimes that “work” refers to taking a certain job, joining a certain ministry, or mending a certain friendship. However, it’s unwise to ready yourself for a relationship that isn’t part of His plan.
This time of waiting can be tough, especially when friends and siblings are dating. But these years are not a waste of time. In fact, they are a gift. So how do we use this time well and treat it like a gift? Here are nine ways that the single girl can spend her time effectively...
Girls are trying too hard to make their dreams a reality. We try to force what isn’t meant to be. I know that lots of girls have boyfriends in high school. And those girls may look happy and appear satisfied, but you don’t see the tearful, heart-wrenching breakups that wouldn’t have occurred if those girls had been patient.
