Where God's Word Meets My Mess
Single Girl, I don’t judge you for any excuse that you’ve made in a desperate attempt to stay inside your comfort zone. But I want you to know that it’s really challenging to meet guys (and do other important things--life's not all about guys) if you stay inside your comfort zone. Please don’t miss the opportunities in front of you simply because they might make you feel a bit un-comfy.
When you were in youth group, you were warned about the dangers of missionary dating. Your youth pastor always said that missionary dating was a slippery slope into an unequally yoked marriage. At the time, you completely agreed with your youth pastor. But then you met [insert the name of your boyfriend].
Dear Single Girl, I see you over there—watching Redeeming Love as you curl up in a ball on your couch with a bag of popcorn in one hand and a can of La Croix in the other. Last month, you promised yourself that you wouldn’t watch this movie because it’s a bit risqué. But that was before your boyfriend broke up with you. Before your best friend told you that she’s engaged. Before you realized that you’re 21 and have never been kissed. [Or insert other scenario that has caused a wave of indescribable loneliness to overtake you.] All you wanted was a little pick-me-up in the love department.
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex. Or maybe it’s just me. I wish I could say that I’m looking forward to marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate. But really, I’m just looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m guessing that you’re looking forward to it too.
Have you experienced that intense nervousness when you talk with the guy you’re crushing on? Then there's the sudden panic that sets in during the chat because you’re not sure how to respond to what he says. And then, of course, there's that delayed panic that you feel after the chat because you’re not sure how he felt about your conversation. Etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. This is the life of a girl who has a hardcore crush.
To have some fun with this idea of embracing the lives that God has given us—whether we're single or married—I wrote this parody of "When Will My Life Begin?" from the Disney movie Tangled. I hope it makes you smile or even laugh out loud.
I was attracted to Tate* as soon as I walked into the interview room. I had recently quit my job—my first job as a college graduate—due to several issues with management and my coworkers. Trying to avoid a long period of unemployment, I applied for a long list of jobs. Within the span of a week or two, I had eight interviews. Which meant that I had an important decision to make.
Dear Single Girl, I know 22 engaged couples. As in 22 couples who will most likely be joined in holy matrimony this year. As in 44 less single people whom I’ll know. Family members. Friends. People I know from church. People I know from college. People I know from my college & career groups. It feels like the clock is ticking for me...very, very fast.
You know that crushed feeling you get when the guy you like starts dating someone else? I wrote this poem on the same day that I found out the guy I secretly liked was dating someone else. Honestly, it was a very depressing day for me. But the purpose of this poem isn't to throw a pity party; it's to express my emotions and hopefully provide an outlet for you to express yours, too. You don't have to stuff the sadness down into the depths of your soul. Even when you're sad about something seemingly silly, like your crush dating another girl. You can take that sadness to Someone.
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