Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
In real life, guys and girls break up and subsequently wrestle with serious doubts and regrets. I’d argue it’s particularly common for girls who break up with their boyfriends to doubt or regret their decisions. It’s simply easier to stay in relationships—even unhealthy ones—than to be alone. But does that mean they should take back their boyfriends?
It was clear to me that Madison lacked respect for her fiancé—and that marrying him wasn’t going to solve that problem. If I could’ve asked her one question after hearing her critical comment, I would’ve asked this: “Do you actually respect your fiancé, or are you just marrying him to check the ‘marriage box' off your ‘life to-do list’?” Honestly, I don’t think enough girls ask themselves that question.
This post isn’t about what attracts guys in general—because guys who follow Jesus (hopefully) prioritize very different things than guys who don’t follow Jesus. However, this post is about how to attract guys who follow Jesus and two ways you can do that based on 1 Peter 3:3-4.
Oh, how I don’t want you to settle. Because I’ve seen so many girls settle for guys who weren’t necessarily losers but who definitely weren’t winners. They deserved winners, and so do you. So if you think that you might be settling for a guy who’s simply not right for you, here are a few signs to know for sure.
Have you experienced that intense nervousness when you talk with the guy you’re crushing on? There's also the sudden panic that sets in during the chat because you’re not sure how to respond to what he says and the delayed panic that you feel after the chat because you’re not sure how he felt about your conversation. Yes, this is the life of a girl who has a hardcore crush.
I've written about Shawn Mendes’ music once before, and I couldn’t help but address another one of his hit singles, “Treat You Better.” This song is a little dated, but it still plays on the radio. And honestly, it’s a goldmine for me—I have a lot of zingers that I could share with you about this song. Get ready to hate Shawn Mendes’ guts. (Just kidding. I’m not encouraging you hate him—just to evaluate his music with fresh eyes!)
So why was I so obsessed about a beautiful face? Was there more to him than his good looks? I wanted there to be more, but I didn’t know how deep his character was. I should’ve been paying attention to his character first and foremost, but it was really his appearance that attracted me to him.
We’ve all heard that we need to wear our hearts on our sleeves and let our emotions determine how we act. But if you’ve ever been rejected by a friend whom you bared your soul to or ignored by a boyfriend whom you spoke intimately with or reprimanded by a mentor whom you shared your darkest secret with, then you know that wearing your heart on our sleeve is messy.
You were sure that this was going to be your year for finding true love. You were determined that you wouldn’t spend this Christmas alone. You thought you would definitely have someone to kiss under the mistletoe in 2020. But you wonder if you’ve lost your chance at finding someone to spend the rest of your life with.
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