Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
In real life, guys and girls break up and subsequently wrestle with serious doubts and regrets. I’d argue it’s particularly common for girls who break up with their boyfriends to doubt or regret their decisions. It’s simply easier to stay in relationships—even unhealthy ones—than to be alone. But does that mean they should take back their boyfriends?
It was clear to me that Madison lacked respect for her fiancé—and that marrying him wasn’t going to solve that problem. If I could’ve asked her one question after hearing her critical comment, I would’ve asked this: “Do you actually respect your fiancé, or are you just marrying him to check the ‘marriage box' off your ‘life to-do list’?” Honestly, I don’t think enough girls ask themselves that question.
This post isn’t about what attracts guys in general—because guys who follow Jesus (hopefully) prioritize very different things than guys who don’t follow Jesus. However, this post is about how to attract guys who follow Jesus and two ways you can do that based on 1 Peter 3:3-4.
Though I’d never read Dr. Carolyn Weber’s memoir Surprised by Oxford, I highly anticipated the release of the movie Surprised by Oxford, which was—yup, you guessed it—based on the book. So when I saw it was coming out in theaters for a limited two-day release, I insisted on going to see it. After spending two hours watching a beautiful yet flawed love story unfold, I walked out of the theater feeling a mixture of bliss and disappointment.
I couldn’t help but notice Liam sitting across the room from me in that small circle of people. He was incredibly handsome, so I immediately tried to catch a glimpse of his left hand to see if he was married or not. To my delight, he wasn’t wearing a wedding ring! But unfortunately, the evening went downhill from there.
Oh, how I don’t want you to settle. Because I’ve seen so many girls settle for guys who weren’t necessarily losers but who definitely weren’t winners. They deserved winners, and so do you. So if you think that you might be settling for a guy who’s simply not right for you, here are a few signs to know for sure.
I don’t judge you for any excuse that you’ve made in a desperate attempt to stay inside your comfort zone, but I want you to know that it’s really challenging to meet guys (and do other important things—life's not all about guys) if you stay inside your comfort zone. Don’t miss the opportunities in front of you simply because they might make you feel a bit uncomfy.
You were instantly attracted to him when you met him—and you were instantly impressed with him, too. He’s genuine and honest with you. He asks about everything—from your typical workday to your wildest dreams. He works really hard and has a steady job. He’s sweet, patient, and trustworthy. And his smile is pure magic. Unfortunately, though, he’s not a Christian.
We all know that many Christian single girls go to Christian colleges to meet their future husbands. They may not openly admit that, but if you observe their behavior for a few months, you'll be able to see it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet Prince Charming while you're at college, and it's true that some couples do meet at college. But for the Christian single girls who go to Christian colleges and don't meet their future husbands—and I promise that this isn't as rare as it feels—I want you to know a few things.
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