Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
If you winced when you saw the title of this post, you’re probably an introvert like me. I hate when people tell me I need to step outside my comfort zone. But to be honest, I often end up thriving when I take their advice. I hope you’ll consider taking mine.
Maybe you’ve never dated anyone either—or you’ve dated very few people—and you’re afraid of doing the whole dating thing “wrong.” Unfortunately, your fears about dating seem to be getting worse, especially as you get older. As a fellow inexperienced dater, I want to share an encouraging truth with you that will hopefully help you conquer your fears about dating.
Even though I’m not in college anymore, you and I have more in common than you might expect. First, I’ve always been an introvert; so I understand how valuable your alone time is. Second, a few years ago, I was in college—specifically, a small Christian college that was a 10-hour drive from home. I missed my family, I was scared of making friends, and I was too concerned about my grades. (Yeah, #Classic Introverted Freshman.) But in hindsight, I can see so many things I should’ve done differently in college—and this post is my friendly warning to you: Don’t do what I did.
But that’s not what this post is about, friends. After all, you can find tons of resources about doing all the things that will potentially lead you to a book deal. But if you want to have a solid foundation for your writing as you embark on this exciting journey, I have a few other suggestions for you.
On the one hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and never want to have it again. On the other hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and won’t want to stop. Because sex isn't something I've experienced, it's honestly quite terrifying to me.
If Prince Charming is in sight, maybe you’re not worried about post-college life. But if he’s not yet in sight, you’re probably very worried. Either way, I understand how terrifying post-college life seems while you’re still in college—because you’ve been in school for approximately two decades of your life and soon life’s possibilities will be limitless. It's not an easy transition to make, but you don't need to be afraid of it.
There’s now a checkmark next to “write a book” and “become a published author,” but there’s not yet a checkmark next to “find success.” I realize that success is a subjective concept, so here’s my version of it: being a well-known, well-loved published author. And I haven't found that success yet.
You want to walk away from _____ situation, but you choose to stay. Why? I believe the answer to that question is fear. These are two of the main fears that keep us in a rut and keep us from experiencing real freedom.
When other people ask you how you’re doing, you enjoy telling them, “Oh, I’m good—busy as usual.” You have the appearance of a go-getter, which you secretly love. And you always feel good about yourself when you complete the tasks on your to-do list. But all of a sudden—at least it feels sudden—you reach your breaking point.
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