“The more you do, the more worth you have.”
This is a common message we never audibly hear, but it’s frequently implied by others—including by family members, friends, and church leaders. Not because they aren’t Christians per se or because they don’t truly care about you. But because they’ve bought the cultural lie that is stated above—“the more you do, the more worth you have.” We mistakenly believe that we will find strength in doing more—finding a side hustle, starting a hobby, setting new goals for ourselves, etc.
When other people ask you how you’re doing, you enjoy telling them, “Oh, I’m good—busy as usual.” You have the appearance of a go-getter, which you secretly love. And you always feel good about yourself when you complete the tasks on your to-do list.
I See the Real You
But all of a sudden—at least it feels sudden—you reach your breaking point.
The point when you realize you’re not just busy—you’re stressed. The point when you see that you’re not just tired—you’re exhausted. The point when you notice you’re not just weary—you’re overwhelmed.
“When did all of this become too much for me to handle?” you wonder. “What can I possibly cut from my schedule? It all matters too much! Why can’t I seem to do all the things anymore?”
There’s not one thing in your life that’s particularly difficult. Rather, juggling all the things at once is difficult. In fact, it’s beginning to feel impossible.
You think that you should be able to handle it—you know, all the things. But you just can’t do it anymore.
I’m With You, Friend
Trust me, I’m right there with you. I understand what you’re going through right now. And you have my deepest empathy. But I want to encourage you with something better than my empathy.
The Lord looks from heaven; He sees all the sons of mankind; from His dwelling place He looks out on all the inhabitants of the earth, He who fashions the hearts of them all, He who understands all their works. The king is not saved by a mighty army; a warrior is not rescued by great strength. A horse is a false hope for victory; nor does it rescue anyone by its great strength. (Psalm 33:13-17 NASB)
This life isn’t about us; it’s about the Lord. He has fashioned your beautiful heart, and He understands you better than I ever will. He knows what you’re capable of and what you need to take off your plate.
I know it feels good to brag on how busy you are and tell others how many projects you’re taking on and share about your latest goals and accomplishments. But there’s only so much you can do; because God is the One who saves, rescues, and gives victory.