Dear Single Girl, today was a hard day. A really, really, really hard day. Your best friend—who’s been your best friend since kindergarten—got engaged today.
College was a crazy season of life, and I can’t believe that it’s over now. Even though I won’t miss the research papers or exams or presentations, I’ll definitely miss the feeling of community. As a recent grad, I feel like there are so many things that I could tell you about college—not because I know it all but because I made so many mistakes during college that I don’t want you to make! I asked some of my recently graduated friends to share their thoughts as recent college grads, and these are the things that they wanted you to know.
So I have this problem—a problem of pointless pursuits. Pointless pursuits have kind of been the theme of my life, at least my life in the last few years. I haven’t pursued empty things because people failed to warn me about the consequences. No, ignorance wasn’t the issue. My stubbornness was. But warnings are warnings for a reason. This post is my warning to you.
Some soon-to-be-college-grads that I know already have plans for the future. They already have a job lined up, or they’ve already met Mr. Right, or they’ve already chosen to further their education. But I don’t have anything set for my life after April. And that scares me.
I’ve entrusted my heart to way too many people in my life. Thus, way too many people have disappointed me. Although this is difficult to admit, it’s partially our fault when people disappoint us. They can only disappoint us if we put too much faith, hope, or trust in them. No one deserves our hearts except the One who created them and holds them tenderly.
My freshman year was not long ago, and I can relate to your worry. However, I believe it’s possible to worry less about starting college if you don’t put so much pressure on yourself to succeed.
This poem is based on Ruth 1:16-17, which describes Ruth's loyalty to her mother-in-law, Naomi. Even though Ruth had just lost her husband, father-in-law, and brother-in-law, she was still determined not to leave Naomi alone. Her courage and loyalty serve as an example for us in our relationships today.
Homeschooler, if you ever think you’re weird or even abnormal for being homeschooled, stop. You’re not. You’re just different. And different can be a good thing.
Don’t feel like a failure if someone you care about doesn’t listen to your advice or outwardly show appreciation for your concern. Though it may feel like you’re being rejected, you never know what God is doing in his/her heart. Maybe He is using your encouragement so he/she will change. Only that person can make a choice to change. Only God’s work in their heart will make them live differently.