“I’m praying for your future husbands.”
When my friend’s grandma told me and my sisters that one Sunday at church, I was honestly floored. I barely knew my friend’s grandma, yet it felt like she knew me so well—because if I had had to openly and honestly request prayer for anything at that moment in my life, I would’ve requested prayer for my future husband.
So shout out to Ella. (Yup, that’s her real name. No “name has been changed” footnotes this time. I want to give her a proper shout-out.)
I realize several of you who are reading this post aren’t single, so as a single girl, I want to share three ways you can pray for single girls like me. Maybe they work with you or they’re in your Bible study or they babysit your kids. However you know them, know they covet your prayers. And if you’re not exactly sure how to pray for them, here are a few suggestions I highly recommend:
1. Pray for her future husband.
Chances are good that the single girl in your life would prefer not to be single. God knows who her future husband is, and he needs your prayers. Honestly, praying for him is one of the best ways you can pray for her.
Pray for her future husband to pursue God and to pursue her. Pray for him to become the spiritual leader she needs him to be. Pray for him to have victory against the sins that tempt him—from apathy to idolatry to pornography.
2. Pray for her to manage her desires in biblical ways.
It’s totally normal for the single girl in your life to desire attention and affection from a guy. Her desires to date, get married, and have sex aren’t unbiblical. But these desires can be handled in biblical or unbiblical ways.
Pray for her not to give into lust, view pornography, covet others’ relationships, give away her virginity (or her heart), or settle for someone who doesn’t put Christ first. Pray for her to confess when she gives into temptation. Pray for her to remember it’s okay to have unfulfilled longings, as long as she brings them to God.
3. Pray for her not to lose heart.
I know a few single girls who seem to have lost all hope that they’re going to get married someday, which is a shame. While I believe it’s important for single girls to make peace with their single status, I also believe that in making peace with it, they often lose heart—and faith in God to provide husbands for them.
Pray for her to understand the significance of waiting—and the consequences of not waiting. Pray for her to wait with expectancy, not doubt, fear, or cynicism. Pray for her to grow in her reliance on God and to give Him the glory when He brings the good gift of a husband into her life.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. (James 1:17 ESV)
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