Dear Single Girl,
While I was attending college, having crushes was basically my hobby (which probably isn’t surprising because if you follow TTT, you’re well-aware of the obsession I had with a guy named Sean* during college). But after I graduated, it felt like my hobby halted very suddenly—the way a knitting hobby halts when the knitter runs out of yarn or the way a baking hobby halts when the baker runs out of flour. Sure, I’ve crushed on a few guys since college—but frankly, there haven’t been many guys available for me to crush on.
But even though I didn’t meet my future husband at college, I don’t regret not chasing guys while I was there. I know that singleness was the best thing for me then—and is the best thing for me right now—because I believe God’s timing for my life is good. And I believe the same thing about His timing for yours, Single Girl.
Meeting the Deadline
Based on what I observed during my college years, I believe most Christian girls go to college with the hope of meeting their future husbands. They might technically be studying chemistry or English or psychology, but they’re really studying the other students—specifically the male students. These girls aren’t fueled by caffeine or adrenaline; they’re fueled by the pressure to find true love—before it’s too late.
It’s now or never, the Enemy whispers to them. This might be your only chance to find him—or to find anyone. The only thing that matters is having a ring on your finger by the time you graduate.
With fear coursing through their veins, the girls grab guys faster than toddlers grab candy falling from a piñata. All the other goals they had for their college years pale in comparison to their goal of finding true love. They might appear to be well-rounded, but only one thing is on their minds: the chase.
These girls join classes, clubs, teams, ministries, and even friend groups with the sole purpose of finding guys to ask out. They spend countless hours seeking attention from any and all guys who are willing to give it. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and lower their standards because they’re terrified of being alone when graduation day arrives.
But there’s no reason for these girls to panic, and it’s a shame that they do. A college graduation is such an arbitrary deadline to place on something as beautiful and meaningful as marriage. This isn’t your one and only chance to find true love, Single Girl—so don’t let Satan tell you that it is.
Waiting with Hope
How great is the goodness you have stored up for those who fear you. You lavish it on those who come to you for protection, blessing them before the watching world. (Psalm 31:19 NLT)
Single Girl, God might have a better plan for you than finding true love in college. But submitting to God means submitting to His plan too. He’ll lead you to your future husband when you’re ready (and when your future husband is ready). Not a moment early. Not a moment late.
It’s okay to look forward to meeting your future husband, and it’s even okay to hope you meet him during college. But it’s not okay to try to “rush” God’s goodness. It’s stored up for those who fear Him, but He doesn’t lavish it on them until the time is right. I promise His timing is worth trusting, Single Girl.
*Name has been changed.
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