Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
I’m a big fan of Paris—at least the idea of Paris. I’ve never actually been to Paris, but it’s on my bucket list. I own several canvas paintings that depict the Eiffel Tower. I even shared a (mostly positive) post about Mrs. Harris Goes to Paris not long ago. But even though it’s set in Paris, the TV show Emily in Paris is something I’ve purposely avoided—for one unavoidable reason.
Your boyfriend has never said anything like that before. He’s always respected your physical boundaries. In fact, you were confident he shared your convictions about saving sex for marriage—which is exactly why you don’t know how to respond to his statement. But you're tempted to say yes.
The topic of sex used to make me feel pretty uncomfy, but that's no longer the case. Now I'm excited about having sex. It's something I look forward to! And if you feel the same way, I want you to know you're not weird; you're normal.
But regardless of my opinion of Mamma Mia!, it objectively defied the biblical view of marriage. Unfortunately, I can never get the 108 minutes back that I spent watching it; but I hope to save you that time.
No, I don’t (solely) regret watching La La Land because Ryan Gosling simply isn’t as attractive as he thinks he is. (I’ve seen guys in the grocery store who are way more handsome than he is.) I honestly regret watching it because I felt convicted not to watch it…and I proceeded to watch it anyway.
In 2019, I published a post called "Why Daydreaming May Be More Dangerous Than You Think." The post is about how daydreaming often precedes lust. It’s actually been one of the most popular posts on TTT, so I decided to write this post about flirting—because flirting often precedes daydreaming, which often precedes lust. To show you what I mean, I included an embarrassing story from my own life. You're in for a treat.
On the one hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and never want to have it again. On the other hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and won’t want to stop. Because sex isn't something I've experienced, it's honestly quite terrifying to me.
I see you over there—watching Redeeming Love as you curl up in a ball on your couch with a bowl of popcorn in one hand and a can of La Croix in the other. Last month, you promised yourself that you wouldn’t watch this movie because it’s a bit risqué. But that was before your boyfriend broke up with you. Before your best friend told you that she’s engaged. Before you realized that you’re 21 and have never been kissed. (Or insert other scenario that has caused a wave of indescribable loneliness to overtake you.) All you wanted was a little pick-me-up in the love department.
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex—or maybe that's just me. While I wish I could say I’m excited about marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate, I’m honestly really looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m sure you’re looking forward to it too.
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