Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
You were instantly attracted to him when you met him—and you were instantly impressed with him, too. He’s genuine and honest with you. He asks about everything—from your typical workday to your wildest dreams. He works really hard and has a steady job. He’s sweet, patient, and trustworthy. And his smile is pure magic. Unfortunately, though, he’s not a Christian.
I see you over there—watching Redeeming Love as you curl up in a ball on your couch with a bowl of popcorn in one hand and a can of La Croix in the other. Last month, you promised yourself that you wouldn’t watch this movie because it’s a bit risqué. But that was before your boyfriend broke up with you. Before your best friend told you that she’s engaged. Before you realized that you’re 21 and have never been kissed. (Or insert other scenario that has caused a wave of indescribable loneliness to overtake you.) All you wanted was a little pick-me-up in the love department.
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex—or maybe that's just me. While I wish I could say I’m excited about marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate, I’m honestly really looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m sure you’re looking forward to it too.
Have you experienced that intense nervousness when you talk with the guy you’re crushing on? There's also the sudden panic that sets in during the chat because you’re not sure how to respond to what he says and the delayed panic that you feel after the chat because you’re not sure how he felt about your conversation. Yes, this is the life of a girl who has a hardcore crush.
We all know that many Christian single girls go to Christian colleges to meet their future husbands. They may not openly admit that, but if you observe their behavior for a few months, you'll be able to see it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet Prince Charming while you're at college, and it's true that some couples do meet at college. But for the Christian single girls who go to Christian colleges and don't meet their future husbands—and I promise that this isn't as rare as it feels—I want you to know a few things.
I had recently quit my job—my first job as a college graduate—due to several issues with management and my coworkers. Trying to avoid a long period of unemployment, I applied for a long list of jobs. Within the span of a week or two, I had eight interviews. Which meant that I had an important decision to make. Whether he knew it or not, Tate was actually a determining factor.
I know 22 engaged couples (i.e., 44 less single people whom I know). These family members, friends, acquaintances, and practically-strangers will be joining together in matrimony. Suddenly, it feels like the clock is ticking for me—very, very fast.
But then reality set in, and my daydream came to a halt. Suddenly, the fantasy was over. Yet another perfect—and fictitious—scenario was done.
So why was I so obsessed about a beautiful face? Was there more to him than his good looks? I wanted there to be more, but I didn’t know how deep his character was. I should’ve been paying attention to his character first and foremost, but it was really his appearance that attracted me to him.
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