I wish there were lots of great resources available for the Christian single girl, but this Christian single girl has definitely struggled to find them. My favorite kind of resource is genuine and interesting, but sadly, these kinds of resources are few and far between—especially for the single Christian girl. But I have stumbled upon a few fantastic resources (including the blog post, book, and podcast episode below) that will hopefully be exactly what you need today.
To the Homemaker Without a Home
But there was one really hard thing about the transition from living at college to moving back home that all single college graduates have to deal with—feelings of loneliness. Knowing that I was welcome back home with my family. Yet feeling like I should be getting married and buying a home of my own. Being thankful for the space that my parents had for me. But learning to accept that I didn’t have a home of my own to “homemake.”
Dear Single Girl, Consuming Sexual Content Won’t Satisfy Your Longing for Sex
I see you over there—watching Redeeming Love as you curl up in a ball on your couch with a bowl of popcorn in one hand and a can of La Croix in the other. Last month, you promised yourself that you wouldn’t watch this movie because it’s a bit risqué. But that was before your boyfriend broke up with you. Before your best friend told you that she’s engaged. Before you realized that you’re 21 and have never been kissed. (Or insert other scenario that has caused a wave of indescribable loneliness to overtake you.) All you wanted was a little pick-me-up in the love department.
Why It’s Normal (and Okay) to Look Forward to Having Sex
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex—or maybe that's just me. While I wish I could say I’m excited about marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate, I’m honestly really looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m sure you’re looking forward to it too.
Dear Single Girl
Don’t worry—I’m not going to tell you that you’re loved or wanted or valuable whether you have a boyfriend or not. You’ve heard those things a hundred times and already know that those things are true. Instead, I’m going to tell you that it's okay to cry, vent, and even scream if you need to. But I also want you to exhale.
If This Was Enough, We Wouldn’t Need Him
Even though I wrote a post about unfulfilled longings recently, I deleted it because I was scared. I thought that I didn’t have enough Bible verses to back up my main points, and I feared the errancy in my words. Though I made the post disappear, my unsatisfied longings didn’t disappear. The deep-in-my-soul aches persisted. But so did He.
Am I Wanted?
As my friends sort through their romantic relationships—whether they're married, engaged, dating, or almost-dating—I sort through my feelings of emptiness, loneliness, and despair. I cling to my unwantedness. It feels wrong to cling so tightly to such an ugly feeling, but I can’t seem to let it go. I simply want to know this: Am I wanted?
Why It’s Okay to Want a Guy to Want You
As another girl answered Wyatt's call, I suddenly realized that he was calling the other Grace. I figured that they were already friends and that he wanted to tell her something. I stood in line, feeling slightly embarrassed. And many years later, I often feel the same way.
To the Girl Who’s Never Had a “Real” Relationship
So my promise for this post is that I won't give you any cookie-cutter answers. No wearing plastic smiles, hiding behind masks, or slapping Band-Aids on our broken hearts. Just real answers for our real doubts about why we've never had real relationships.