Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex—or maybe that's just me. While I wish I could say I’m excited about marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate, I’m honestly really looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m sure you’re looking forward to it too.
Have you experienced that intense nervousness when you talk with the guy you’re crushing on? There's also the sudden panic that sets in during the chat because you’re not sure how to respond to what he says and the delayed panic that you feel after the chat because you’re not sure how he felt about your conversation. Yes, this is the life of a girl who has a hardcore crush.
We all know that many Christian single girls go to Christian colleges to meet their future husbands. They may not openly admit that, but if you observe their behavior for a few months, you'll be able to see it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet Prince Charming while you're at college, and it's true that some couples do meet at college. But for the Christian single girls who go to Christian colleges and don't meet their future husbands—and I promise that this isn't as rare as it feels—I want you to know a few things.
I had recently quit my job—my first job as a college graduate—due to several issues with management and my coworkers. Trying to avoid a long period of unemployment, I applied for a long list of jobs. Within the span of a week or two, I had eight interviews. Which meant that I had an important decision to make. Whether he knew it or not, Tate was actually a determining factor.
I wasn’t going to be one of them—a fangirl who has to see every single movie with Actor A because he’s so hot and charming. Until I did become one of them—a fangirl who has to see every single movie with Actor A because he’s so hot and charming.
I know 22 engaged couples (i.e., 44 less single people whom I know). These family members, friends, acquaintances, and practically-strangers will be joining together in matrimony. Suddenly, it feels like the clock is ticking for me—very, very fast.
You know that crushed feeling you get when the guy you like starts dating someone else? I wrote this poem on the same day I found out the guy I secretly liked was dating someone else. Honestly, it was a very depressing day for me. But the purpose of this poem isn't to throw a pity party; it's to express my emotions and provide an outlet for you to express yours, too. You don't have to stuff the sadness down into the depths of your soul. You can take that sadness to Someone.
These are questions that the typical single girl with a high sex drive asks herself about sex. I’m not judging you if you’ve asked yourself these—and lots more—questions about sex. But as single girls with a high sex drive, what can we do while we wait to get married and have sex? Here are a couple simple things.
Today wasn’t hard because your best friend’s fiancé is a loser. In fact, the opposite is true. He loves Jesus, he has an amazing job, and he’s super tan. Nor was today hard because your best friend’s going to move across the country to live with her fiancé after they tie the knot. In fact, the opposite is true—they’re going to live in the area and make a cute little family here. The real reason that today was hard was because—as selfish as you know it sounds—your forehead got stamped with the bolded black word “alone.”
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