A few short weeks ago, I went to a winter banquet at college—without a boyfriend or even a “friend” who’s a boy. I went with my girlfriends and still had fun.
Did I wish that I’d had a guy to sit next to during the fancy meal? Did I feel a little awkward as I danced beside my girlfriends during the slow dance? Did I think about the handsome guy on the dancefloor who was dancing oh-so-closely with his girlfriend? Yes, yes, and yes. But I survived, and you can survive, too. I truly believe that you can still enjoy your life, even without Prince Charming next to you.
This Isn’t About Girl Power
This is not a post about girl power, but it is about thriving—doing normal, healthy, fun things with the people whom God has given you to love and be loved by. This is a post about being content enough to do things by yourself and with others (and by “others,” I don’t mean boyfriends or potential boyfriends).
If you’re waiting for Stellar Soccer Player to ask you to the dance, stop. If you’re waiting for Cute Coworker to encourage you to work toward the promotion, stop. If you’re waiting for Handsome Handyman to ask for your number, stop. If you’re waiting for Charming Churchgoer to sit next to you during the service, stop.
Instead, ask a group of girlfriends to go to the dance with you. Encourage other coworkers in your office to work toward the promotion. Ask for the number of the girl who sits by herself in class so you can hang out sometime. Sit next to the new family during the service to welcome them.
Stop waiting for Prince Charming to live your life. Be willing to live it without him.
Life Goes on…So Live It
Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (1 Corinthians 7:6-9 ESV)
Okay, I get it. You’re one of the girls who has a burning passion to get married. You can’t do this single thing forever. You’re lonely and anxious. Same here.
Being single right now doesn’t mean that you’ll be single in six years or six months or even six days. But God does have a purpose for you right now as a single girl. Wouldn’t you rather fulfill that purpose than waste it?
You can skip out on the events, miss the adventures, and avoid the opportunities because maybe just maybe that guy will ask you to go with him. Or you can go to the events, tag along on the adventures, and take advantage of the opportunities because you as a single girl still matter and still have a significant purpose to fulfill.
Friends, don’t waste your life waiting for Prince Charming. Enjoy life with the people whom God has placed in your life right now. You might just have some fun.
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