A few short weeks ago, I went to a winter banquet.
Without a boyfriend.
Without a “friend” who is a boy.
With my girlfriends.
And I still had fun.
This Isn’t About Girl Power
Did I wish I had a guy to sit next to during the fancy meal? Yup. Did I feel a little awkward as I danced beside my girlfriends during the slow dance? Uh-huh. Did I think about the handsome guy who was dancing oh-so-closely with his girlfriend? You betcha.
But I survived. You can survive, too. I truly believe that you can still enjoy your life, even without Prince Charming next to you.
I do want you to know that this is not a post about girl power. But this is a post about living—doing normal, healthy, fun things with the people God has given you to love and be loved by. This is a post about being content enough to do things by yourself and with others.
If you’re waiting for Stellar Soccer Player to ask you to the dance, stop. If you’re waiting for Cute Coworker to encourage you to work toward the promotion, stop. If you’re waiting for Handsome Handyman to ask for your number, stop. If you’re waiting for Charming Churchgoer to sit next to you during the service, stop.
Instead, ask a group of girlfriends to go to the dance with you. Encourage other coworkers in your office to work toward the promotion. Ask for the number of the girl who sits by herself in class. Sit next to the new family during the service.
Stop waiting for Prince Charming to live your life. Be willing to live it without him.
Life Goes on…So Live It
Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (1 Corinthians 7:6-9 ESV)
Okay, I get it. You’re one of the girls who has a burning passion to get married. You can’t do this single thing forever. You’re lonely and anxious. Same here.
But what if God has a purpose for your singleness—just for right now? Being single right now doesn’t mean you’ll be single in six years or six months or even six weeks. But He does have a purpose for you right now as a single.
Wouldn’t you rather fulfill that purpose than waste it?
You can skip out on the events, miss the adventures, and avoid the opportunities because—maybe just maybe—that guy will ask you to go with him. Or you can go to the events, tag along on the adventures, and take advantage of the opportunities because you—as a single individual—still matter and still have a significant purpose to fulfill.
Friends, please don’t waste your life waiting for Prince Charming. Enjoy life with the family members and friends God has given you right now. You might just have some fun.