To the Girl Who’s Living with Her Boyfriend

Before you roll your eyes and call me old-fashioned for saying that shacking up is sinful, know that I write these words because I want the best for you. I don’t want you to believe Satan’s lies any longer. I want you to know the hard-but-freeing truth.

Satan really doesn’t want you to read this, so I challenge you to go for it.

If I Could Only Tell You One Thing

If I could only tell you one thing, it wouldn’t be “I hope this relationship works out for you” or “I’m sure he’s a great guy, so living with him is okay” or “God hates you for doing this.”

Nope. None of those things are true. Instead, I would tell you this: “You can leave your boyfriend at any time. In fact, please do. Absolutely nothing obligates you to stay with him.”

Friends, Satan wants you to be content living in the same house as your boyfriend—trapped inside the walls of empty promises and unfulfilled longings. He wants you to believe that this life—the life of cohabitation—is the best there is for you. He wants you to think you might as well stay here forever.

But what if life is better beyond the walls of empty promises and unfulfilled longings? What if life—the life of cohabitation—is actually the worst there is for you? What if you might as well leave?

Hey, I get it. Sin is easy, safe, and comfortable. Staying with your boyfriend is easy. Staying with your boyfriend is safe. Staying with your boyfriend is comfortable.

Yes, leaving is hard, but it’s worth the hardship. Leaving is risky, but it’s worth the risk. Leaving is uncomfortable, but it’s worth the discomfort.

“But We’re Engaged”

Hey, I get this, too. You see bling, and you beam. You tell yourself that it’s okay to stay with your boyfriend and that you can’t leave now that he’s told you he wants to marry you.

Actually, you can leave…and you should.

Because the bling is not a symbol of commitment. Rather, it’s a symbol of false hope. The band is the vow of commitment. Until you have the wedding band with the engagement bling, commitment doesn’t exist.

After all, how long have you been engaged? When is the wedding date? Is it next year, in two years, or perhaps not even set yet? Unless the wedding date is next month, it might as well be the 12th of Never.

Lace up Those Running Shoes

Flee sexual immorality. Every other sin that a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought for a price: therefore glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NASB)

Your body is worth more than you might think. Don’t let your body be used by your boyfriend for quick and easy sex. That isn’t love; that’s manipulation.  

It doesn’t matter if he promised to marry you one day. It doesn’t matter if he’s a great guy with a great future. It doesn’t matter if he supports you financially, physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually (ahem).

In your boyfriend’s house or apartment, you’re simply a sex toy. But you are worth so much more than that! Beyond your boyfriend’s house or apartment, you have a chance at being more than a sex toy. You have a chance at finding real love.

Friends, it’s never too late to leave to run from sin and run to Jesus. Don’t let Satan tell you otherwise.

Comments are closed.

Create a website or blog at

Up ↑