Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
In 2019, I published a post called "Why Daydreaming May Be More Dangerous Than You Think." The post is about how daydreaming often precedes lust. It’s actually been one of the most popular posts on TTT, so I decided to write this post about flirting—because flirting often precedes daydreaming, which often precedes lust. To show you what I mean, I included an embarrassing story from my own life. You're in for a treat.
I wish I could tell you that this Valentine’s Day is special because I finally met The One, but this Valentine’s Day is no different than last Valentine’s Day. Instead of being curled up on the couch with a handsome Christian man wearing a navy pullover sweater and an almost mischievous side smile, I’m writing yet another blog post about singleness. “An Honest Confession on Valentine’s Day” seemed like the only appropriate title for a post about the major gap between where I am and where I want to be this Valentine’s Day.
In this video interview, author Shelby Abbott opens up about what his singleness journey looked like, how he met his wife and got married as a 29-year-old, and how his past (and current) struggles have shaped his ministry mindset. He candidly shares how single girls can approach singleness in a God-honoring way. I know that you'll find his story very encouraging!
On the one hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and never want to have it again. On the other hand, I’m afraid that I’ll have sex once and won’t want to stop. Because sex isn't something I've experienced, it's honestly quite terrifying to me.
I wish there were lots of great resources available for the Christian single girl, but this Christian single girl has definitely struggled to find them. My favorite kind of resource is genuine and interesting, but sadly, these kinds of resources are few and far between—especially for the single Christian girl. But I have stumbled upon a few fantastic resources (including the blog post, book, and podcast episode below) that will hopefully be exactly what you need today.
But there was one really hard thing about the transition from living at college to moving back home that all single college graduates have to deal with—feelings of loneliness. Knowing that I was welcome back home with my family. Yet feeling like I should be getting married and buying a home of my own. Being thankful for the space that my parents had for me. But learning to accept that I didn’t have a home of my own to “homemake.”
I don’t judge you for any excuse that you’ve made in a desperate attempt to stay inside your comfort zone, but I want you to know that it’s really challenging to meet guys (and do other important things—life's not all about guys) if you stay inside your comfort zone. Don’t miss the opportunities in front of you simply because they might make you feel a bit uncomfy.
You were instantly attracted to him when you met him—and you were instantly impressed with him, too. He’s genuine and honest with you. He asks about everything—from your typical workday to your wildest dreams. He works really hard and has a steady job. He’s sweet, patient, and trustworthy. And his smile is pure magic. Unfortunately, though, he’s not a Christian.
I see you over there—watching Redeeming Love as you curl up in a ball on your couch with a bowl of popcorn in one hand and a can of La Croix in the other. Last month, you promised yourself that you wouldn’t watch this movie because it’s a bit risqué. But that was before your boyfriend broke up with you. Before your best friend told you that she’s engaged. Before you realized that you’re 21 and have never been kissed. (Or insert other scenario that has caused a wave of indescribable loneliness to overtake you.) All you wanted was a little pick-me-up in the love department.
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