Where God's Word Meets Our Mess
I think one of the hardest things for a Christian girl to accept is her desire for sex—or maybe that's just me. While I wish I could say I’m excited about marriage because I want to have a lifelong best friend or because I’m ready to love and be loved by my soulmate, I’m honestly really looking forward to having sex. And if you’re trying to follow God’s design for sex by saving it for marriage, I’m sure you’re looking forward to it too.
But one character whom I’ve liked since Season 1 of Lost is Jack Shephard. Honestly, he’s not particularly attractive. He often looks dirty, grimy, and sweaty (which is purposeful, of course, but is still a turn-off). Still, he’s my favorite character on the show because he’s unwaveringly strong.
I know 22 engaged couples (i.e., 44 less single people whom I know). These family members, friends, acquaintances, and practically-strangers will be joining together in matrimony. Suddenly, it feels like the clock is ticking for me—very, very fast.
So why was I so obsessed about a beautiful face? Was there more to him than his good looks? I wanted there to be more, but I didn’t know how deep his character was. I should’ve been paying attention to his character first and foremost, but it was really his appearance that attracted me to him.
These are questions that the typical single girl with a high sex drive asks herself about sex. I’m not judging you if you’ve asked yourself these—and lots more—questions about sex. But as single girls with a high sex drive, what can we do while we wait to get married and have sex? Here are a couple simple things.
Today wasn’t hard because your best friend’s fiancé is a loser. In fact, the opposite is true. He loves Jesus, he has an amazing job, and he’s super tan. Nor was today hard because your best friend’s going to move across the country to live with her fiancé after they tie the knot. In fact, the opposite is true—they’re going to live in the area and make a cute little family here. The real reason that today was hard was because—as selfish as you know it sounds—your forehead got stamped with the bolded black word “alone.”
I’m writing this letter to you because I want you to know that I have high expectations for you. I don’t want to trudge through decades of singleness and end up with a subpar husband. However, I also want you to know that my expectations for you are reasonable. By the way, you should probably have reasonable expectations for me as well…because I’m pretty broken.
Before you roll your eyes and call me old-fashioned for saying that shacking up is sinful, know that I write these words because I want the best for you. I don’t want you to believe Satan’s lies any longer. I want you to know the hard-but-freeing truth. Satan really doesn’t want you to read this, so I challenge you to go for it.
For the 4th of July, I normally post something about freedom because this holiday is all about freedom. However, today's post includes a special interview with my friend, Kennedy Wilhite. She’s getting married on the 4th of July! I’ve enjoyed getting to know her, and I know you’ll enjoy getting to know her too.
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