3 Radical Truths Every Single Girl Needs to Know About Sex

The topic of sex used to make me feel pretty uncomfy, but that’s no longer the case. Now I’m excited about having sex. It’s something I look forward to! And if you feel the same way, I want you to know you’re not weird; you’re normal.

1. Your curiosity is normal.

If you’re a single girl who’s never had sex, it’s totally normal to have curiosity. After all, you’ve never had sex! There are so many areas of life like that. For example, I’ve always been curious about skiing because I’ve never done it. If I end up doing it one day, I won’t be curious about it anymore. All that to say, don’t be ashamed of your questions or concerns about sex. In marriage one day, all of those will be addressed.

2. Your desires are normal.

Just as there’s nothing wrong with being curious about sex, there’s nothing wrong with looking forward to sex. Your desire to have sex isn’t something you need to try to hide or ignore. God created you with that desire, and that desire is good! And by waiting until you’re married to have sex, you’re honoring Him with your desire.

3. Your struggles are normal.

As I’ve written about on TTT before, lust isn’t a “guys-only” sin. Girls struggle with lust too. And I’d argue it’s a particularly common struggle among single girls—probably because they feel ready to have sex but aren’t married yet. I know from personal experience how great the temptation to lust is, and honestly, I’ve given into that temptation countless times. But my point in saying that your (really, our) struggles are normal isn’t to normalize sin because sin is never okay. Rather, my point is to remind you—and to encourage you—to keep fighting against lust as you wait for marriage.

Closing Thoughts

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual imorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5 ESV)

Single Girl, sex is a beautiful creation of God. There’s no need to be afraid or ashamed of your longing to have sex with your husband someday. I know it’s hard to trust that God will fulfill your longing someday. Keep the three radical truths of this post in mind as you continue to be sexually pure (and to hope for marriage), and keep this encouragement in mind too: Don’t give up!

This post was originally published here.